Men are different, though. Sometimes they are lacking in jealousy. Or maybe it's a sign they're going to cheat. Both of my exes who cheated were lacking in that territory. I had a male co-worker that I got along with very well. He joked that he would give my husband at the time a carton of cigarettes as a trade for me. Expecting outrage & indignation when I told him of this, I instead got what I thought was half- serious consideration. When I was seeing another guy, I got offered $9000 by a guy on Facebook for "ten minutes of my time." Once again, I was presented with indifference and disinterest in the whole situation. Where was the outrage and jealousy? I would've been hunting someone down with a raging fury if I were those guys. I remember my first boyfriend stepping up to the plate. A co-worker drove me home one night. We were hanging out at the apartment, shooting the shit. My boyfriend called & I told him this guy graciously offered to drive me home and was there. Next thing I know, my boyfriend is there, throwing the door open telling him he'd better leave. At the time, I was embarrassed. Now, I appreciate his actions. Plus, he was smart enough to know that guys usually have an agenda when they help a girl out.
The last guy I saw was the worst. Not a jealous bone in his body. He was all about wanting an open relationship. This was super confusing to me and almost started a bar fight. We went out one night with two good friends of mine that had come from WV to visit. We went to a bar and NBF (non boyfriend) joined us. Being in a bar, I proceeded to drink and subsequently flirt with a guy one table over. But, I thought it was kosher since I was in an "open" relationship. This guy was very drunk and rowdy. To the point that he sat in NBF's seat when he got up. I told him to leave, but he stayed like glue. NBF came back and told him to get out of his seat. Drunk guy says "What are you going to do, I'm trying to fuck your girlfriend?" Then, there were lots of puffed chests and angry words thrown about. We quickly left the bar, barely avoiding a fight. NBF wasn't fighting over my honor though. He felt he had been disrespected. Once again, I wasn't a coveted item.
I don't know how it will be for me in the future. I like a man to have some jealousy. I think he should like that men look at his woman, but not too long. I guess, to me, it's a sign that a guy cares. He's worried about a man trying to steal his woman. You're something that they care and worry about. Maybe it's a crazy philosophy.
Women carry it way too far, of course. I once had an ex help me out in an emergency situation. He couldn't get a hold of his girlfriend to tell her he was helping me out. "You never saw me today." were his words. I complied but thought it was completely fucked up. That's taking it a little far. I think there has to be an equally healthy dose of trust and jealousy to keep a relationship afloat. Don't go batshit because his female cousin writes on his Facebook wall & give a shit when someone gives your mate special attention. Especially if that special attention includes kisses and sex. You'd think people could be decent in a relationship, but they can't. I hold onto fidelity like the Queen does her crown, but I'm a lone wolf. I had three women tell me their husbands had left them this week at work. Just normal customers. It's sad. Sadly, for a lot of folks, there's always other fish in the sea. And, they feel they're the big fish. I'm using too many fish analogies. You get the point. People suck. Sleep with one eye open. Trust no one, etc.
