In Elle magazine, there is an excellent article on Sonic Youth's Kim Gordon. Apparently, her over 20 year relationship with Thurston Moore ended when she found out he was cheating on her when she checked his texts. Sound familiar? I was floored by this. Kim Gordon is one of my idols. In my top five of coolest women on the planet. This happened to her, too?! Who the hell could he find that's cooler than her? Oh, that's right, no one! What a jackass. Is every man lead by his dick?
I'm in this bizarre, new place where I've been making peace with the past. I've moved on & forgiven everyone in both of my horrendous cheating situations. I found that my main foe has now become Facebook. First, it's constantly suggesting that I might "know" my ex-husband's girlfriend in the friends update. Yeah, Facebook, I know her. I probably also know the kid who threw rocks at me in sixth grade. You can stop suggesting it to me everyday. I'm happy for Bob & her, but I don't want Facebook to suggest we become friends.
Friends- what I seem to have also become with another ex & his girlfriend. I've forgiven them, too & made my peace. She seems to be going the extra mile so that we can all be friends. I accepted her friend request. Which made me realize that he & I weren't friends there. So, I requested him only to be taken to our last page of conversation- Me "Kisses!" Him "Muah!" That was weird. And, it's weird to see pics of these guys all happy with theses girls. I do wish happiness for everyone because I'm a kind-hearted person. Maybe it's why I feel I've found happiness lately. The possible purging my soul of all if this darkness sure helped. And maybe karma does exist. Quite frankly, I'm due for some good luck. According to my karma calculations, I should fall in love, win the lottery & receive an Oscar or Pulitzer. It's been a bad couple of years. As for everyone else, I do honestly wish them all happiness. Just keep it out of my face, Facebook.
Well said.. I can say, sadly, that dicks have little to do with it. If only it were that simple. In my life, I've had at least three relationships in which the woman has cheated. All of them long-term relationships. Like you, I have forgiven all of the people involved in all of those events.
ReplyDeleteAs for facebook, you ain't wrong there, Erin. I still get friend suggestions for one of my ex girlfriends. And I haven't seen her since I was a teenager.
I'll hope for some happiness coming your way, or if nothing else, a little karma going their way. You can't hope for that, you've forgiven them. I can hope on your behalf, though :)